Beliefs: The Key to Your Change

Beliefs: The Key to Your Change

by | Aug 26, 2020

If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done and, here’s the secret key, and change beliefs we didn’t know need changing.

It’s our beliefs about ourselves that most often get in the way to making positive change in our lives. We may want something so bad, but if we don’t think we deserve it, are worthy of it, will be safe or the list goes on, then we will actually push away or sabotage the positive things that come as we move through the process.

Have you checked your beliefs lately? Do you really think you deserve it or are worthy of it? Perhaps it’s worth having a look.

And if you discover that your beliefs are actually standing in the way of your positive change, then I encourage you to be courageous and lean into the process of changing them to ones that support and facilitate your change.

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Our Perspective Is Our World

Our Perspective Is Our World

by | Jun 30, 2020

Our perspective is our world, but it can also limit what we see.

We base decisions from our perspective.  We choose how we interact with others based on our perspective. The quality of our relationships can be dictated by our perspective. And what we achieve in our lives is often determined by our perspective.

Our perspective and our willingness to change it, can be the key to making positive change in our lives. When we have the courage to look at our perspective, question it and open ourselves to other perspectives, that’s when we see things we didn’t see before and learn about possibilities we never knew about.

So if you’re feeling stuck, frustrated or just can’t see the path ahead, try looking at your perspective and inquire if there’s another way of looking at things.

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If Change Was Easy

If Change Was Easy

by | May 26, 2020

If change was easy, there would be no growth and transformation wouldn’t be possible. 

The butterfly doesn’t complain when it struggles to break through the chrysalis. In fact, it’s the struggle that completes the growth for the butterfly. 

If you helped pull the butterfly out of the chrysalis before it was ready, before it has struggled it’s way through, it wouldn’t be strong enough to survive in the wild.

So, if change is hard for you right now, it’s supposed to be. It’s supposed to challenge you, it’s supposed to be uncomfortable, it might even be painful. 

You might even be breaking open, so you can grow back stronger, wiser and more capable than you ever knew you were. .

So keep leaning in, embrace your change and everything that comes with it. Because the bigger the challenge, the bigger the growth. And the growth is so worth it all. 

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Hope Is The Light

Hope Is The Light

by | May 14, 2020

Hope is the light we hold onto when we’re stuck in the darkness. It’s the unshakeable belief that things will be different even if you can’t see it yet.

And it’s what we can share with one another, as if passing a torch, sharing a lit candle with those who can’t see the light.

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Letting Go of the Past

Letting Go of the Past

by | Dec 11, 2019

Letting go of the past

The process of personal growth involves a great deal of letting go of the past and things that happened to us or around us when we were kids.

It’s quite amazing how it can impact us well into our adulthood. We underestimate the impact and often hope that it’s far enough in the past to not affect us anymore. 

But the thing is, no matter how long ago your childhood is now, you made up beliefs about yourself, who you are in this world, what you’re worth, what might be your fault, what you have to do for love and belonging etc. These are your beliefs and the negative ones you form about yourself are your limiting beliefs.

And we carry these into adulthood. So much of my work with clients is looking at these beliefs, learning how we came up with them, and then creating new ones that serve us better.

The poem above is for children and adult children of alcoholics. We carry the burden of somehow feeling responsible for helping our parents and carry a feeling of guilt, shame and failure when we’re not successful (which is inevitable for a child to not be able to fix their parents). This later in life turns into a behaviour of taking responsibility for other’s lives, other’s outcomes, other’s problems. And so the burden we carry gets heavier and heavier.

My work involves removing that burden, cutting the ties to people’s past so they’re not carrying the weight of that guilt anymore. I help people finally be free to step into their own light, unburdened, so they can be free to truly be their best and live that life they imagined. .

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