Resilience Is Facing Adversity

Resilience Is Facing Adversity

Resilience isn’t something you get just because you want it.

Resilience is more something that you get and earn when you have the courage to face your adversities and your challenges head on. You don’t avoid them, you don’t try to take the short cut and you don’t blame them on someone else. 

Resilience is something you get when you are willing to walk the path along your learning and growth that lies within your challenges. 

It takes courage to take responsibility for your part and look at what you can do to overcome the challenge you find yourself in. 

And when you do that, you learn what you’re capable of and you grow as a result. And next time a challenge comes along, it will still be hard, but your resilience muscle will be stronger and you will trust yourself just a little more that you’ll be able to find a way through.

Letting Go of the Past

Letting Go of the Past

Letting go of the past

The process of personal growth involves a great deal of letting go of the past and things that happened to us or around us when we were kids.

It’s quite amazing how it can impact us well into our adulthood. We underestimate the impact and often hope that it’s far enough in the past to not affect us anymore. 

But the thing is, no matter how long ago your childhood is now, you made up beliefs about yourself, who you are in this world, what you’re worth, what might be your fault, what you have to do for love and belonging etc. These are your beliefs and the negative ones you form about yourself are your limiting beliefs.

And we carry these into adulthood. So much of my work with clients is looking at these beliefs, learning how we came up with them, and then creating new ones that serve us better.

The poem above is for children and adult children of alcoholics. We carry the burden of somehow feeling responsible for helping our parents and carry a feeling of guilt, shame and failure when we’re not successful (which is inevitable for a child to not be able to fix their parents). This later in life turns into a behaviour of taking responsibility for other’s lives, other’s outcomes, other’s problems. And so the burden we carry gets heavier and heavier.

My work involves removing that burden, cutting the ties to people’s past so they’re not carrying the weight of that guilt anymore. I help people finally be free to step into their own light, unburdened, so they can be free to truly be their best and live that life they imagined. .

Stillness Helps You Heal

Stillness Helps You Heal

Presence and stillness provide an opening to a part of ourselves that wants to be healed. 

But this opening can be painful, and that’s why most people avoid it. And so it’s much easier to be busy, occupy yourself with distractions and avoid the stillness. 

But eventually this strategy catches up with you because the pain gets stronger, the armour gets heavier to carry and it seems that you can’t avoid it any longer. Something has to change because what’s currently going on isn’t sustainable. 

It could be your job, the way you show up in your job, who you are in your relationships or your lack of relationships, the toxicity with people in your life or merely the dissatisfaction of your own life. 

When you allow yourself to be still and when you have the courage to let the thoughts rush in, that is when you start the process of allowing yourself to heal, let go, learn and grow. 

In my workshops and through my one-on-one coaching, I use meditation, nature and visualization as a way to provide stillness, to stop the wheels and finally let the thoughts rush in. It’s through this and a compassionate yet powerful coaching process where people truly experience transformation. It’s through the letting go in order to make room for the new where people discover their true authentic selves and are inspired to show up in that every single day.

Challenge Your Perspective

Challenge Your Perspective

Our perspective really can’t change unless we challenge it. And the easiest way to do that is by sharing it with others. And by having the courage to share our perspective with others, we risk what they will think, what they will say and what they will think of us. But with this risk, we also find out if our perspective needs to be challenged or not.

Sometimes our perspective is a bunch of illogical thoughts based on fear and the past. And this is when it needs to be challenged and reworked to a new perspective based on real evidence and the present. If our perspective is received with interest and engagement and you feel power and energy when you share it, then most likely it’s coming from a place of purpose and alignment and it doesn’t need to change.

So regardless what your perspective is, it’s always worth sharing and challenging to make sure you’re aligned with your values and living from a place based on the present and real evidence, not from fear and the past.